In Regards to Myself

The first thing you need to realize about appealing to people socially is that you need to first appeal to yourself. The goal is to reshape yourself physically but to retain your emotional aspects and personality.


Basically you need to amplify your personality traits. Who are you as a person? What kind of music do you listen to? What kind of activities do you like to partake in? A person who likes to play soccer may wear shorts, Reebok shoes, a soccer jersey, and have no particular haircut. On the other hand someone associated with the "hardcore" music scene (boy or girl) would probably wear "skinnies", t-shirts with their favorite bands name on it, van shoes, and have lip piercings. The people you see on a daily basis aren't actors and they aren't trying to put on a show for the world. Their just normal people being themselves.

The next step is to work on your verbal communication skills. Make sure you NEVER use too much physical gestures during a conversation. A conversation should be 60%-80% verbal communication, 20%-40% physical communication, and 100% confidence. Everything you do should resonate confidence, not cockiness.  Keep an eye out for awkward silences and stray from using "creeper" lines. A conversation should never be started with "Nice weather we're having today isn't it?" or "Come here often?" because these will already ensure a point loss. Not to worry though, if you aren't the best speaker and an awkward silence does occur you can always make those points up by creating a sense of interest in other person. If it's a first time conversation try to keep it from lasting more than 15 minutes. The way a first time conversation should go is as follows:

• Open the conversation. Anything ranging from a simple hello to asking where a location is at will work. 
• Tell them a little about yourself but avoid conflict: Never bring up testy topics such as abortion or the death penalty during a first conversation. You haven't even built a stable support system for the relationship yet, imagine what would happen if your opinions differed greatly!
• Ask a few questions about the other person but make sure that you don't put the spotlight on them just yet! They know about themselves already, keep them interested in what you have to say.
• Find a way to close up the conversation without just cutting it off.
• Say your goodbyes, maybe ask for their number or a way to contact them so that you can spend time together in the future. If they give you something then you're in, you've made a new friend and more are sure to follow. If they give you nothing then suck it up and move on to the next person.

Just a tip for the future! People have short attention spans, try to keep the topics of the conversation from going to long because all it will do is bore your conversational partner.

That's all I have for this post. I'll be back later to cover a new topic. Thank you for reading! I hope to see you back soon.

Very Respectfully,

Marcus Jimenez

The Introduction

Hello and welcome to my blog. First things first, My name is Marcus Jimenez and I hope that by being here you, the reader, are able to learn a thing or two from what I have to say. In my early teenage years I was socially deprived. It's not that I wasn't given the ability to socialize but more so that I wasn't socially accepted by my peers. I was not only teased daily but on many occasions I was beat up or "jumped" by the various bullies that inhabited my school. When I turned 15 I realized that not only did I need to find friends but also that if I didn't become socially active soon I may lack the tools to succeed in a formal business standpoint. Over the years I found myself as a person in ways such as what I liked to do, how I liked to dress, the styles of music I listened to, and who I desired to be. After a little body work and a handful of social interactions I saw myself improving and by the time I moved to the next state and started school I was able to draw friends from all sorts of different stereotypes to be my friends. With the experience and knowledge that I gained I realized that I could help others who are socially awkward or who just lack the knowledge of the "rules" as I once did. That is where this blog comes into play.

In no way is this blog an attempt to make money, nor will I ask for such from any of the readers. All the information that I post here is free to the reader at a small cost of a thank you or a comment telling me your opinions or suggestions. This blog is in no way a way to "pick up chicks" a way for people to learn to use others. Instead, it is a tool to be used to gain social acceptance in different situations. My methods aren't proven to work but from experience many people have succeeded from the information that I will talk about.

The things that I will be covering throughout my posts are the following:

• How to make yourself socially appealing to others as well as to members of the opposite sex for the purpose of a relationship.
• How to act in certain situations such as parties or other public events in order to gain approval from your peers.
• Ways in which you can increase your abilities to act and react in social settings.
• How to define who you are as a person, i.e. your beliefs and going against the social norm.
• And more!

No where in this blog will I explain how to get laid, so if you came here for the sole purpose seducing members of the opposite sex then you're out of luck.

Thanks for reading this opening post and I hope you stick around to see what I have to say.

Very Respectfully,

Marcus Jimenez